We no of Darrin very well over here J. and him have had there differences but they have come to terms. I posted this thread because when I read his responce I had the thought he was coming back at you. I don't no why he is a Moderator I think he is to quick on the draw if you ask me.
Man, I just don't want to start a fight and you are welcome to your opinion, but why do you say that about me? What made you form negative opinions about me enough to make you want to share them with others? What have I honestly done to deserve it?
Have I ever done anything to you? Have I ever had bad things to say about you? Do you know me at all? Do you honestly know why I do the things I do? What have you seen me do on TCCoA that tells you that I should not be a moderator over there? (I actually resigned yesterday but that is being completely ignored it seems. If they want me to stay then I guess I will) If you have seen me act in ways that you interpret as inappropriate, do you positively know all of the circumstances behind why I did that even? Can you see the discussions that go on in the moderators forums or the complaints that are filed against people or the PM's and emails that we moderators get to provide us with basis for things that people don't want to throw out in public to start even more of a fight over? I never do anything without solid evidence. It woudl often inappropriate to discuss that evidence in public. If we put it into an "open court" then it turns into the Springer show.
IF you are only basing your opinions off of the recent uproar, then that issue is over and resolved. Wiped from the books then, now and future as far as I am concerned. I will not talk about it. Period. The parties involved are satisfied and that is all that matters.
I ask you to please go do a search on me over at TCCoA, which is the only board on which I am a moderator, and show me what I have done wrong or how I have acted inappropriately in that capacity. Again, the recent issues were personal and disallowed for discussion. That was one instance with one individual. You are questioning my capacity in general, so I ask that if you want to talk about this that you to show me reasons in general.
Again, and I will say this several times to make it very clear, I am not wanting to argue with you. You are entitled to your opinion. My concern is that you are sharing that opinion so I think needs a little explanation. If you don't want to do that then its fine by me, but I would sure like to talk about it because I don't think its a fair assessment. That is my opinion.
I know that people that have never had the responsibility of being a moderator probably don't understand and thats ok. Again, I am not arguing about it. I just want you to fairly think about it. There are also people that have been moderators and are not now for whatever reason. Usually they leave because its hard to do and some people just can't take it. I made that decision to leave yesterday based only on people sharing opinions like yours. I don't want to be thought of like that. In the mean time I have heard far more opinion in the other direction and that honestly makes me feel pretty good. The most meaningful is from people that I have had issues with in the past.
I don't mind if you pick on me in fun. I never have. You can call me gay or make fun of my hair or weight or size or manliness or any of a number of things. That doesn't matter. What you are talking about now is not in fun. Its not superficial. You are saying things about who I am when you have never met me and don't know me at all to know who I am.
In my opinion, the most important thing to remember when you are reading someone elses words on the internet is that there is only one attitude in the room and it isn't the person that wrote the words. If someone uses words that can be interpreted in many ways that always has to be taken into account.
Justifying an opinionated post by saying I thought he was doing this, that or the other, which are obvious assumptions that can obviously be mistaken by definition, and then immediately following it up with more biased and un substantiated opinon shows exactly what I am saying. In this case an assumption was made that was mistaken based on an attitude that was not mine. The person that I was actually talking to didn't see things that way at all and he just expressed that for everyone to see. Doesn't that say something right there?
I had to step back into that thread because I thought it was being moderated by someone else and things were getting carried away past what I am going to tolerate.
Thanks 94onair. I am glad to see that you got what I said and I am sorry that your thread got out of line. The only suggestion that I have to you on how that could have been prevented on your behalf was that the original title of the thread was kind of harsh. It invited problems like that even though you probably didn't mean for that to happen. Then you made that godawful mistake of defending yourself. Somehow on the internet this is the worst crime imaginable. LOL
Hey Salty, we can talk and speak to each other. I was invited to stay and I appreciate that. The complete separation was taken out and I think we can all be friends now again. At least I hope so. But even in the event of that not being able to be the case, I solemnly swear to not speak badly of either of you. Working this out has created some respect on my part for the others involved. I don't even care if you poke fun at me. I just ask that it honestly be in fun and nothing more. LOL
You know that I am VERY touchy about my honor. It is who I am. That is off limits no matter what. leave that one alone and all is happy.